In today's post I want to talk about relationships, love, and how you know you are with someone you could spend forever with. I've written before about how to have a healthy/happy relationship, but todays topic is a little different. When you are dating someone, your relationship tends to go through stages. There's the initial stage where you fall in love with someone and then there is another stage, the one where you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with that person. In my personal opinion there shouldn't be a timeline on either of these stages. In my experience dating Devin I knew VERY early on that he was "the one." How did I know this? Keep reading to find out!
you laugh together
This might seem so simple… but spending forever with someone is a really long time. If you don’t have fun together then that’s going to make it a lot harder. It’s important to find someone who makes you laugh and you have a fun with no matter what you are doing. Devin and I have a blast whether we are out with friends, on a trip or just going to the store together.
He fits into the life you have now and the life you want to have in the future
This is SO important. I think many people are disappointed when a relationship doesn’t turn out how they thought because they are looking for someone who fits them perfectly right now. The truth is everyone grows and changes over time. You want to find someone who matches you now and also fits where you want to be in the future.
What does this mean? You need to be with someone who you share the same future goals and dreams with. Not someone who seems perfect for you in the moment. You want someone you can be with now, who you can have a family with (if you want to have a family), and who you will still want to be with once the kids have grown and moved away.
He allows you to grow
Devin has always encouraged me to grow as a person. He is just as invested in my goals and dreams as I am and is my biggest supporter in anything that I do. You want to find someone who encourages you to follow your dreams and also challenges you to be a better person. No matter what you are always rooting for each other and are proud to support your partner in everything they do.
You work together to resolve arguments
Every relationship is going to have its arguments – it’s unavoidable. If you’ve found someone who is a good match for you, instead of creating drama around each argument you will both work to resolve your disagreement together. This means taking the time to try to understand where the person is coming from and being honest about what is actually making you upset.
You’re not trying to change one another
While people will grow and better themselves over time, you can’t ever completely change a person. If you’re in a relationship thinking you’re going to change something about someone and then they’ll be perfect…you might need to re-evaluate. Loving someone means that you accept the flaws and things that might drive you crazy about that person. It's important that both of you need to accept one another for who you are now and who you’re working on growing to be.
You are best friends
While it’s important to be in love with your significant other, there should also be a connection between you two that allows you to be the best friend that either of you has ever had. You want to find someone who understands you on a very deep level, no matter the amount of time you’ve been together. A great example of this is whenever you get good news you should naturally find yourself wanting to tell your significant other!
Your friends and family love them
If your family and friends love your partner and are supportive of you two, that is a great sign! Of course, it matters what you think the most, but your family and friends opinions are important— especially when you consider how many future holidays and events you'll be spending together.
You are physically attracted to them.
If you are not physically attracted to your significant other they are most likely NOT the one. I know that sounds harsh, but hear me out. If you are going to spend the rest of your life with someone you should think that they are the most attractive and sexiest person on the planet. Seriously. If you find yourself having to over explain why you are happy with them and you don’t gush about how “cute” they are to your friends when they ask about your relationship, that is not a good sign. As cliché as it sounds, you need to have a natural attraction to the person you choose to spend the rest of your life with. There should be no need to convince yourself of the physical attraction. It needs to be there naturally, and if not they are probably not the one.
You are authentically yourself.
If you can be completely yourself and feel comfortable around them, that’s a really good sign. Those initial giddy feelings should eventually turn to a feeling of contentment and confidence in your relationship. A good example of this could be, you feel no shame talking about how happy you are around your friends. When you talk about your significant other you're sharing about some great thing he did recently, or how nice your weekend away was. You should be happy and in love and have no reservations about sharing that with others!
I hope you enjoyed this post and it gave you some insight about our relationship and relationships in general. Getting married is a huge life choice, but should be an easy one. With Devin and I getting married this year, I know others may think we seem young. I think that once you know you've found your person there is no reason to wait to begin building your life together. It honestly, truly doesn't matter what age you marry at, young or old, if you've found the person that you love. ♡
In today's post I want to talk about relationships, love, and how you know you are with someone you could spend forever with. I've written before about how to have a healthy/happy relationship, but todays topic is a little different. When you are dating someone, your relationship tends to go through stages. There's the initial stage where you fall in love with someone and then there is another stage, the one where you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with that person. In my personal opinion there shouldn't be a timeline on either of these stages. In my experience dating Devin I knew VERY early on that he was "the one." How did I know this? Keep reading to find out!
you laugh together
This might seem so simple… but spending forever with someone is a really long time. If you don’t have fun together then that’s going to make it a lot harder. It’s important to find someone who makes you laugh and you have a fun with no matter what you are doing. Devin and I have a blast whether we are out with friends, on a trip or just going to the store together.
He fits into the life you have now and the life you want to have in the future
This is SO important. I think many people are disappointed when a relationship doesn’t turn out how they thought because they are looking for someone who fits them perfectly right now. The truth is everyone grows and changes over time. You want to find someone who matches you now and also fits where you want to be in the future.
What does this mean? You need to be with someone who you share the same future goals and dreams with. Not someone who seems perfect for you in the moment. You want someone you can be with now, who you can have a family with (if you want to have a family), and who you will still want to be with once the kids have grown and moved away.
He allows you to grow
Devin has always encouraged me to grow as a person. He is just as invested in my goals and dreams as I am and is my biggest supporter in anything that I do. You want to find someone who encourages you to follow your dreams and also challenges you to be a better person. No matter what you are always rooting for each other and are proud to support your partner in everything they do.
You work together to resolve arguments
Every relationship is going to have its arguments – it’s unavoidable. If you’ve found someone who is a good match for you, instead of creating drama around each argument you will both work to resolve your disagreement together. This means taking the time to try to understand where the person is coming from and being honest about what is actually making you upset.
You’re not trying to change one another
While people will grow and better themselves over time, you can’t ever completely change a person. If you’re in a relationship thinking you’re going to change something about someone and then they’ll be perfect…you might need to re-evaluate. Loving someone means that you accept the flaws and things that might drive you crazy about that person. It's important that both of you need to accept one another for who you are now and who you’re working on growing to be.
You are best friends
While it’s important to be in love with your significant other, there should also be a connection between you two that allows you to be the best friend that either of you has ever had. You want to find someone who understands you on a very deep level, no matter the amount of time you’ve been together. A great example of this is whenever you get good news you should naturally find yourself wanting to tell your significant other!
Your friends and family love them
If your family and friends love your partner and are supportive of you two, that is a great sign! Of course, it matters what you think the most, but your family and friends opinions are important— especially when you consider how many future holidays and events you'll be spending together.
You are physically attracted to them.
If you are not physically attracted to your significant other they are most likely NOT the one. I know that sounds harsh, but hear me out. If you are going to spend the rest of your life with someone you should think that they are the most attractive and sexiest person on the planet. Seriously. If you find yourself having to over explain why you are happy with them and you don’t gush about how “cute” they are to your friends when they ask about your relationship, that is not a good sign. As cliché as it sounds, you need to have a natural attraction to the person you choose to spend the rest of your life with. There should be no need to convince yourself of the physical attraction. It needs to be there naturally, and if not they are probably not the one.
You are authentically yourself.
If you can be completely yourself and feel comfortable around them, that’s a really good sign. Those initial giddy feelings should eventually turn to a feeling of contentment and confidence in your relationship. A good example of this could be, you feel no shame talking about how happy you are around your friends. When you talk about your significant other you're sharing about some great thing he did recently, or how nice your weekend away was. You should be happy and in love and have no reservations about sharing that with others!
I hope you enjoyed this post and it gave you some insight about our relationship and relationships in general. Getting married is a huge life choice, but should be an easy one. With Devin and I getting married this year, I know others may think we seem young. I think that once you know you've found your person there is no reason to wait to begin building your life together. It honestly, truly doesn't matter what age you marry at, young or old, if you've found the person that you love. ♡
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