Skip to main content

How to have a happy and stress free relationship


Looking for some advice on how to have a happy relationship? Let’s get one thing out of the way. 
Fairy tale relationships do NOT exist.  
But you know what does exist? Happy relationships. Really, truly happy and healthy relationships. This does not mean every day will be amazing. This does not mean things will always be easy. And this definitely does not mean it won’t take work. It does!
Here are my top four tips on how to have a genuinely happy relationship...

COMMUNICATE

 Communication keeps you on the same page and helps you stay emotionally connected. Talk to your partner about your feelings. Ask questions and genuinely listen to their answers. If you're upset, admit it. Don't make your partner try to figure out what's wrong. (This is one that I am not perfect at, but working on. ) Talking through problems builds trust and makes your relationship stronger.


ASSUME THE BEST

 Focus on the good in your partner even within the moments of frustration.  When you assume the worst, you automatically put the other person in defense mode. In defense mode, your patience can run thin, more arguments happen, and communication is more difficult.  Rather than pointing out everything your partner is doing wrong, take the time to let them know what they do that makes you happy. It will soften your heart and help you appreciate them, flaws and all.  When you assume the best of your significant other they will feel that you are for them and on their side.  When you have confidence that your significant other truly wants to understand you, discussions can turn into growth opportunities instead of drama. Always assume the best.


 SPEND QUALITY TIME TOGETHER 

 It's so easy for a relationship to deteriorate into “what’s comfortable.”  While being comfortable with each other is good thing,  it’s definitely not ideal for the longterm health of a relationship.  In order to keep learning about your partner and growing together, you need to go through experiences together. A great way to do that is to spend time with each other outside the house, in new and exciting situations. If you don’t take the time to put the other stuff away and spend focused quality time with each other, you will grow apart.



 SPEND TIME APART

 Couple's time is great but spending every single minute together isn't. It's important to remember that every relationship is unique and involves two people. If you aren’t happy outside of your relationship, you will not be happy inside your relationship. It's healthy to have your own friends and interests. Helping each other become better people and better partners often goes together, so it's important to focus on yourself as well. Make sure you nurture your own interests and desires, take a class you're interested in, make plans with friends, instead of waiting for your partner to fill the void!

My boyfriend Devin and I have been together 2 and 1/2 years and I can honestly say we are just as happy as we were when we first started dating. Both of us continuously do the tips mentioned above and it definitely makes a difference in our relationship. The bottom line: happy couples love each other. And loving someone isn’t just about saying it every day – it’s about showing it every day.

Labels:

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Gym Shark Review

Gym Shark is one of my new favorite workout brands that I am so excited to write about. I’ve always been a fan of Victoria’s Secret leggings, but found that they were not so great for working out or my budget.  I began hearing about the Gym Shark leggings and seeing people wearing them at the gym where I work, so I figured I’d give them a try.    I ordered a pair of the Fit leggings, which are all black with a black waistband. I was expecting the material of these leggings to be thicker like workout leggings usually are, but they are actually very breathable and thin but not see through. I love how these legging have a sticky lining on the waistband because this means they actually stay up while I run or lift. This is also helpful for holding my phone while I do lunges, so I can still listen to music. (the most important part of my workout routine.) The best part of these leggings I personally think is how they don’t have a crotch inseam, which i...
Post a Comment
Read more

Follow your Heart

I absolutely love the saying “Follow your heart.” In fact, this quote is in my Instagram bio, as a reminder to myself and to others. Throughout my life, when I’ve had to make difficult decisions, I’ve always come back to this saying. Call it intuition or a gut feeling, but typically in my life my “gut feelings” have always been right. Fear is scary. I mean, it  is fear. It’s an emotion stemming from uncontrollable stress and anxiety. As human beings, we have settled on running away from fear at any cost. But I’m here to tell you that we are not meant to live in fear, but to live along side it. . Does that sound crazy to you? Just hear me out. No matter how much running you do to try to escape your fear, it’ll always be right there behind you. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but it’s inevitable. Fear is  a constant. Instead of losing your mind trying to escape the emotion, learning to accept it and live with it will lead to truly overcoming fear. ...
Post a Comment
Read more

Starting a Fitness Routine

With the start of Fall comes a new school year and new routines. I work at a gym, and typically this time of year we get a lot of new members wanting to start their fitness journey. We all have been there and get ourselves all hyped up for a week… and then we end up losing our fitness streak. Then we must start over, back to square one. I'm here to share some tips on how to KEEP that streak going and ways to stay motivated!   Do what works for your schedule The number one mistake that people tend to make is plan to workout hard 7 days a week only to burn out after day 2 and eventually give up. If you work a full-time job or are in school, realistically you will not have the time to workout every single day. Simply take a look at your schedule and pick the days that work best for you, even if it's just twice a week, that's better than not going at all! Plan it out When you have no idea what you are going to do at the gym, or have no idea how to use any equipmen...
Post a Comment
Read more