Welcome back to my blog!
I haven't posted in a while and wanted to write a life update.
Do you ever have those seasons of life where you feel like you are living in fight or flight mode? That's been me recently. The past two months have been tough for Devin and I, as well as both of our families. We lost 3 family members in less than two months, all who were very near to our hearts. It has definitely been a challenging season for both of us and I wanted to share a little bit about what I've learned throughout these past few weeks.
At first, after losing my Grandpa I felt overwhelmed by how sad I felt. It's normal to feel deeply sad after losing a loved one, but I felt like I had all these deep feelings of grief and nowhere for them to go. I stumbled upon this quote and it really changed my perspective.
"Grief, I’ve learned, is really just love. It’s all the love you want to give, but cannot. All that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat, and in that hollow part of your chest. Grief is just love with no place to go.”
I love that. Grief can be an overwhelming emotion, but that doesn't mean it's a negative one. It's natural to grieve after losing a loved one and sometimes in this busy life we want to jump ahead to the next season where it doesn't hurt so much. But unfortunately, you can't fast forward seasons of life. The only thing to do is to go through them day by day.
Letting yourself grieve a loss is so important because it actually means you are expressing how much you loved them and how much they meant to you.
After I realized this, it has been a little easier to navigate these past two months. Devin and I have really leaned on each other for support and we've realized how normal it is to have sad days and happy days all mixed in together. Grief looks different everyday and that is okay.
If you are going through a loss too, just know that even though it is hard, it's healthy to feel your emotions and it's even more important to take care of yourself physically. Our emotions affect our bodies so don't be afraid to get extra sleep and take time to rest. Whatever situation you are going through I'm praying for you and you've got this.
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