Sorry to break the news to you, but it’s impossible to be liked by everyone. Growing up, I would do everything I could to “fit in” just to be like everybody else. But overtime, I have learned that the only thing that trying to "fit in" was doing was draining the person I truly was inside. If you are somebody who cares too much about other people’s opinions then this might be a good read for you.
People pleasing is something that I’m sure plenty of you find yourselves doing. I’ve always been a people-pleaser, and I'm still working on my needs to be liked by everyone. It used to be so hard for me to say “no” to people because I was afraid of letting others down or being disliked. But let me tell you: it gets old quick. It's normal to want to feel liked and wanted. It's a natural human feeling. But the line is crossed when you go from wanting to be liked, to needing to be liked.
When I was younger I used to feel like in order to be content within myself, I needed everyone else to be happy and like me.
As I've grown up I have come to realize that when you need to be liked by everyone, you end up sacrificing the things that you actually need.
I admit that one of my biggest flaws is agreeing to do things that I had no interest in doing, in hopes of not disappointing anybody. But the only person that I end up disappointing is myself. Do you see the problem?
It’s not easy to overcome the need to be liked by everybody. It takes commitment to be true to yourself at all times. This means pushing away the urge to change yourself for someone else.
You can’t control what other people think, say, or do. But what you can control is how you better yourself as a person everyday and practice the values that you believe. Trust me, the older I get the more I realize I just have to do what makes me happy, not anyone else.
The moments that I’ve chosen doing something that made me happy, over my desire to be liked was one that was worth it. Living your best life is living a life that’s yours. Do yourself a favor and let go of that little voice inside of you that is making you feel guilty for doing what makes you happy, and just do it.
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